30 Day Challenge – Day 21

Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs. 

Everyone has something they look for in their significant other, and things that are just deal-breakers. For today’s challenge, it’s going to be about what turns me on, or off. (That makes me sound like a friggin switch, but yeah. lol.)


Physical appearance. Not to sound shallow, but it is a fact that physical appearances are a huge factor when it comes to being attracted to someone for the first time. Note that it differs from person to person. Some people might find chubby people attractive, some might not. Note that it’s different from judging a person for their appearance. It’s just that our brains tell us that we like certain physical traits on someone. For myself, I have a tendency (I didn’t even notice until someone pointed out to me) to like skinny guys. With small eyes.

Brainiacs. Well, they don’t have to be the stereotypical nerd-kind (not that there’s anything wrong with that. I’m a nerd myself), but the ability to hold a good conversation, good general knowledge of current affairs and good understanding of concepts is a plus.  My ex-bf was a super brainy kind when it comes to general knowledge. He was dubbed the Walking Wikipedia by his friends lol. But then again, you wouldn’t be able to tell from his physical appearance coz he looks 100% hipster(complete with skinny pants, Sebago slip-ons, lens-free black frames and chequered shirts). And he’s a graphic designer, not some science student. We used to talk for hours on the vagaries of the universe and theories of how dinosaurs were killed and how religion is just a means of the powerful elite to control the masses. Derp.

Character. At the end of the day, what makes two people click are their characteristics, traits and values they hold true to themselves. If all of the above are matched but your values clash, it’s not gonna work out anyway. For me, as much as I think females should be empowered and independent, I still have an old school thinking when it comes to guys and responsibilities. I think men should be head of their households, with women supporting them in both career (bring home the bacon, equally!) and family. Nothing turns me on more than a guy with a strong sense of responsibility, who can take care of his woman’s needs both financially and emotionally. And which girl doesn’t want to be swept off their feet by sweet gestures? A man who isn’t afraid of telling and showing his girl that he loves her gets ten points in my book.


I would like to think that I’m (generally) a tolerant person, so I can put up with a lot of things. But there are a couple of things that would be deal-breakers for me.

Sloppiness. I might not be a hypochondriac like someone else in my household, and I’m pretty messy myself, but at least I take an effort in making sure that I shower/brush regularly, shave and whatnot. I do not leave dishes in the sink for a week, nor do I live in a state of absolute filth. If you’re the type that changes your underwear once in three days (by flipping it inside out) then sorry, baby. I might love you but I don’t think I could live with you.

People who constantly try to change me. I like being me, a lot. I may be socially awkward, bad at parties and difficult to get along with when you first get to know me, but I like being me. I absolutely hate it when people judge my character and/or try to change me by saying shit like “You should do this…””You shouldn’t be like this…” Like seriously, fuck off. If you like me, you should accept me for who I am and not try to change me. “You should go out more and mix around”. <– Deal breaker line. Don’t force me to be a social animal. Well basically, if you’re not understanding enough of how I AM, then that would turn me off to the point of no return. I’ll just have a really bad impression of you forever.

Well there you have it. Til the next challenge!

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