Nurture Your Introverts to Harness Their Superpowers

introvert
noun
/ˈɪntrəvəːt/
  1. a shy, reticent person.

Mention introvert and the image that comes to mind is of a person sitting quietly in a corner, surrounded by a mountain of books. They might enjoy hobbies like knitting, drawing, video games, or going for long walks on the beach on their own.

Extroverts, by comparison, are the ones who are forward and ‘think on their feet’; social butterflies who enjoy meeting people. If these terms ring any bells, it’s because they are traits companies use to describe desirable employees. Everyone loves the party animals, because they’re fun-loving, engaging, charismatic. Introverts, on the other hand, get a lot less love. The corporate world is setup to value speed and aggression, and there seems to be little to no space for introspection.

I am here to tell you why introverts matter, and why companies shouldn’t dismiss an employee’s potential, simply because we don’t fit into the conventional mold of what society deems a quote unquote, ‘good’ employee.

Now, before we dive deeper, let me just put it on the table that I have nothing against extroverts. Extroverts are awesome and I envy them their ease at fostering connections and their ability to bring people together. But just like everything in life, I believe in balance – and I think the world would be a better place if we can tap into the strengths of both extroverts AND introverts.

Many people assume that I’m antisocial, because I’m only good to ‘hangout’ for short periods –  and even then it’s usually with a small and intimate group. This is untrue. I do not hate meeting people. Being an introvert simply means that I need time to recharge my batteries. Unlike extroverts, who get their energy from being around people and bouncing their ideas off others, introverts are like sponges – we absorb information and process them within. Think of a sponge that has soaked up too much water: it needs to be squeezed and emptied before it can be used again.

An ex-boss once told me not to be ‘antisocial’, when I politely declined another glass of beer at an office gathering. “You’re so uptight. Chill lah. Open up,” he said, while waving a bottle of Heineken in my face. “Live a little.” This is a very extraverted way of thinking.  Live in the moment. Enjoy a bottle of beer, preferably while it’s cold, in the company of colleagues. And I’m not saying that’s wrong or anything, but introverts tend to take a bit more time to process things. Mine went like this: Another beer will get me drunk = I will have difficulty driving back home = Endangering others = let’s not have a beer, even if everyone else is and they call it ‘socialising’.  Needless to say, the way he delivered his well-intentioned (?) remark did not help me to ‘open up’. If anything, I grew to dread office gatherings because I felt like a total freak, even when I was trying to socialise with others.

The Value of Introspection

“Spur of the moment” is used to describe something that happens without advance planning. Extroverts tend to have this way of thinking – speak one’s mind / get something going first, then work out the deets later. And while it can be a good thing in some cases, other decisions require deliberate and thoughtful introspection. Warren Buffet, one of the world’s richest men, is a famous introvert, and has said before in interviews that he often takes time off to do his own research and deliberate on decisions.

In a meeting, extroverts tend to dominate conversations, as they are more outspoken and willing to share,  while introverts tend to be sidelined as they might only speak up when they feel that they have something valuable to add. This might lead people to believe that they do not have any good ideas at all, when in reality, they are simply taking their time to analyse and process the information, before they share their thoughts. If you need someone to create a report or summarise the minutes – I can guarantee you that introverts will excel nine times out of ten, because of the way our minds are wired. Remember = sponge.

Meaningful Connections 

Introverts are often chastised for their inability to socialise or network well. If you base success on the number of people you manage to pass your phone number to at an event, then sure – introverts are probably not as good as extroverts. But I disagree that we don’t connect well with people. It just takes us longer to find that one person who is worth spending our precious time and energy, because to introverts, this is a very limited resource that has to be spent wisely. We may not be naturally charismatic, but it is precisely because of this that many introverts place a high value on their relationships, both personal and professional, and work hard to maintain these r/ships. These deep and loyal bonds can be a great asset to a company, and friendships for that matter.

The Quiet Sweet Potato Is Filling 

The above is a literal translation of the Malay saying, “diam-diam ubi berisi” lol.

There’s nothing fancy or particularly appealing about a sweet potato’s appearance. And yet, this humble root vegetable fills you up. It means that just because someone doesn’t outwardly say or appear to fit into a certain mold, that doesn’t mean they don’t have anything of value to add, or that they’re stupid. The closest equivalent to this proverb that I can think of is ’empty barrels make the most noise’, although it doesn’t capture the simplicity and essence of diam-diam ubi berisi.

There is a common misconception that leaders have to be outspoken, pushy go-getters. This setup means that charming, charismatic people, regardless of whether they can actually do a job well, are often given leadership positions.  I have personally worked with and met people in leadership positions who are all air and no action: nice to look at at first glance, but with no substance within.

In contrast, quieter, less outgoing leaders are usually more focused on getting a job done rather than gaining approval from their employees and peers – which means that they can be more efficient. I have worked with several introverted bosses, and they are some of the best leaders I’ve had the chance to work with. And because their personalities gelled with mine, they understood how to bring out the best in me.

Many of the world’s most gifted creatives and analysts – from Bill Gates and Steve Jobs to Einstein – are introverts. Magic happens in the space between solitude and monotony, because creating a work of art, whether it’s writing, drawing, painting, etc. is often an introspective activity. We may be inspired by our surroundings, but creativity is drawn from within. We are no lesser, nor stranger, than the rest of the world. There is strength in being an introvert, and we should embrace who we are and work to realise our full potential.

Signing off with a very insightful Ted Talk by Susan Cain !

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Patreon?

Hey guys!

If you’ve been following this blog for any amount of time, you’ve probably noticed that I’m not very diligent when it comes to sharing personal posts or motivational (?) stuff like ‘Lessons I’ve learned from… etc.’  There are a few reasons for this:

A) It Takes A Buttload of Time 

Unlike lifestyle / food posts, which are based on experiences (ie, ‘tangible’ stuff  – you can write about how food tastes, how the service at a resto is like, what went on at an event, etc.) thoughts are much harder to present in a cohesive manner.  It usually takes, on average, a couple of days for me to write a ‘serious’ topic, as compared to a food post which I can bang out within an hour. Oftentimes, when I have a good idea, I run out of steam before it comes to fruition and I end up abandoning the whole thing lol. Also, despite being a writer, I am not the best when it comes to articulating what I feel or think. It’s like running Red Dead Redemption II on a potato graphics card.

True story

B) I Am My Own (Worst) Gatekeeper 

As a former newspaper journalist, self-censorship is almost second nature. Writing and rewriting, reading and rereading each sentence before it is deemed ‘fit’ for publication, is just something that I do unconsciously. But this also comes at a cost: I am often hyper-aware of how some words/ opinions may come off as ‘controversial’… so I avoid writing about them entirely.  I know it’s a shame because this is where discussion stems from, but I dislike conflict, and I feel it isn’t worth the trouble of potentially getting into a fight or getting ‘cancelled’ for my opinions. There are plenty of nasty, spiteful people out there on the net, and I don’t want to see my face Photoshopped over a naked body and uploaded to a porn site just coz someone isn’t happy about my opinions about the new Disney’s Mulan. @-@ There is also the possibility that I might write something a future employer deems offensive and controversial, which might affect my job prospects or other future projects.

C) Separating Content 

Most of the stuff on here relates to food/ travel and lifestyle, so it’s kinda odd that there are random personal posts in them. I want to try and separate the two, because I doubt anyone would be interested in reading about my struggles with anxiety and depression, when all they came on here to find out was how much a bowl of curry noodles from X restaurant costs.

D) Conflict Avoidance 

Perhaps the primary reason why I don’t do a lot of personal posts – is because I don’t want drama. My family reads my blog occasionally (my own fault coz I have them on my soc-med and I share my blog links there too), which has effectively prevented me from sharing too much about my personal life.

I don’t live in a perfect household. I believe every family has problems, and in no way am I saying I don’t love them or care for them. But there are times when I just want an outlet for release – or share my thoughts and connect to others with similar experiences – and I simply cannot do that by talking to them about it. Some might ask, “why are you airing dirty laundry?”, and “why is it easier for you to share things with strangers?” Because surprisingly, many strangers and friends DON’T judge, and even if they do, I don’t care as much, as compared to if it comes from someone close to me. I just want to say my piece, and be done with it. Does that make sense?

Case in point: I once wrote a personal story about my experience during a CNY reunion dinner. An uncle decided it was his place to tell me that “I had a pretty face, but it would be better if I lost some weight.” I didn’t want to cause a scene coz my parents were there, but I went home and wrote a scathing piece on my blog – which somehow went viral (because nosy, rude relatives are a fixture in every Chinese family and I’m sure a lot of people can relate). The BBC even contacted me to write a lifestyle piece for them on a somewhat related topic, which I think was the pinnacle(?) of my career as a writer lol.

But the result was that it somehow got back to the fam. That uncle has not spoken to me ever since, and my mom now uses this as arsenal whenever we have an argument and I say I don’t care (“oh but you do, you wrote that piece about uncle X, didn’t you?”)

See what I mean?

I’ve been toying with the idea of doing Patreon for some time now, because I’m writing stuff on this blog anyway – why not have a dedicated space for more personal topics? So I’ve decided that I’ll be putting up all my personal posts on Patreon. This way, I can write – no-holds barred – and really share my thoughts on things. Maybe I won’t have any readers – or the community interaction I enjoy here on WordPress –  but it will sure be a load off my chest, and I’ll have the freedom to write whatever I want.

I realise this must sound like a very poor pitch – I’ve never been good at sales pitches or asking people to do things – but if you like, please subscribe to my Patreon. I already have a couple of posts and good ideas lined up, and it would mean the world to me to earn a little from this otherwise expensive hobby (been blogging for eight years, never earned more than 400 USD). That comes up to about 50 USD a year, or around 10 cents a day. (If that isn’t the embodiment of the starving, melancholic writer stereotype, I don’t know what is.) But whether or not you’ve been following this blog for some time, or if you’re new, or just stumbled on this by accident, I just want to say a big thank you for spending your precious time to read whatever I have to say. Thank you, and I hope you continue to support this channel, and if you don’t like the content, let me know what I can improve on.

Til the next post!

 

Why Are We Not Talking More (Openly) About Depression?

Hey guys!

Serious topic. 

My eldest aunt called my mom yesterday. She said my cousin had come down with dengue and was refusing to go to the doctor, while my uncle was in the hospital because of respiratory complications from smoking. The doc told him he had to quit smoking or die coz his lungs had hardened…but it seems like a habit he is unable to kick.

My aunt was diagnosed with clinical depression last year. She has been to the doctor and gotten meds for it ,but treatment for mental illness is expensive at private practices, and at government hospitals, the wait often takes months just to get an appointment. So she stopped going. This is on top of all the old-age health probs like diabetes, high blood, joint pains, etc.

She talked about killing herself and not having the will to live, which alarmed us. I felt sorry for her, because she lives in a toxic environment – the husband she is so worried about is an abusive womaniser who gambles and contributes nothing to the household, her two sons work abroad and only come back to drop the grandkids with her, so she basically has no one to talk to. In such a scenario, no matter what meds you take or how many docs you see, you’re not going to get any better.

We tried to offer her solutions – “why don’t you take a break and come stay with us for awhile?” “Ignore your useless husband, he’s not treating you well” ” Try to relax and let go of things”, “Go back and see the doctor” …but she’d always refute each one.

  • “I can’t, I don’t want to be a bother”
  • “I can’t ignore him, he’s my husband no matter how he treats me”
  • “I can’t stop worrying, I know I shouldn’t”
  • “The doctor is too expensive and the hospital is too far”.

I know from first hand experience how difficult it is to get a depressed person out of that loop of pity and self-loathing. Most of them are incapable of pulling themselves out of it, and their calls for help are often brushed away, simply because relatives/friends do not know what to do or how to deal with it. I understand, because my own mother has depression, and for the longest time I didn’t know what the fuck to do about it. So I drowned myself in work, went home late when everyone was asleep, and basically avoided interacting with the fam. It was an extremely difficult time. I knew it wasn’t her – it was her disease – that was causing all the confrontation, the hurt, the rage that she would direct at us for no reason. I became angry and resentful. I’ve always had anxiety, but it developed into full-blown depression because of the daily shouting matches at home. I’d scream internally “”Why can’t I have a normal family like everyone else?!” – then feel guilty that I felt that way. It got to a point that was so bad, I was ready to move out and cut ties with them. Maybe that’s why studies show that people with close relatives that have depression are more likely to have depression themselves. A combination of genes and environmental factors.

It wasn’t until my mother finally acknowledged that she had a problem and talked to us about it – that she needed our help – that things got better. We actually sat down and discussed it openly and talked about how we could mitigate episodes from happening in the future. She’s on antidepressants now, and of course there are days where she is not herself, but things have mostly improved.

This is why it is so important to have someone to talk to when you’re depressed – but in Asian communities, there is still a strong stigma against mental health issues. I don’t know if it’s the whole ‘face’ thing: ‘face value’ is imperative in Chinese culture, and to admit that someone, whether it’s yourself or a person close to you, is suffering from mental problems, is akin to ‘loss of face’, something embarrassing that needs to be hidden. Also, some people might feel the need to hide it from others because they don’t want to be a bother or a burden – that’s certainly how I felt before (and still do at times).

My mom called up my cousin and advised him to look out for his mom. He agreed begrudgingly over the phone, but I think it’s mostly because it’s an elder and you can’t very well slam the phone down on them lol. Not sure if it’s advice he’ll take to heart, but there is only so much we can do as relatives. I suggested to my mom that we should probably go visit my aunt in Ipoh and bring her to KL – remove her from the toxic environment  – we’re just worried that she might not be willing to come.

My neighbour’s dad committed suicide just a couple of months ago. He was 80 years old. So don’t think that this is something that only affects a certain demographic. It can happen to anyone.

People close to me know that I suffer from an anxiety disorder, something I have struggled with since my teens. Outwardly, I appear somewhat ‘normal’ – but I guess this is what they refer to as ‘high-functioning’ anxiety. There are bad days where I get panic attacks, especially in social situations. The sweating. The nervousness. The inability of the brain to process things or react accordingly. But there are also days where I don’t feel so bad, and I’d like to think that those days outweigh the rest… for now.

I know I said we should talk more openly about depression, but perhaps I can give you an insight as to why some people don’t, from a personal perspective. With my mom having depression herself (I don’t want to worry her more) and my very-Asian-dad having the emotional depth of a potato, there are not many people that I can talk to. My friends have their own problems. We are conditioned to believe that “hey, other people have worse problems than us”. If you know someone with depression, PLEASE DO NOT tell them that. They know there are people out there suffering from bigger problems. It does not make their own suffering insignificant, so please do not guilt trip them about it. IT DOES NOT HELP.  

I’m lucky, in a way. I’m not eloquent or articulate irl, but I’m blessed with the ability to speak my mind in a different way – through the written word. When things get overwhelming, I pen my thoughts down here. Not because I want attention, but because writing is often cathartic and allows me release.

Is there a point to this ramble? Perhaps I just hope people will be more open about talking about depression, rather than trying to sweep it under the carpet. And don’t judge. You never know – a kind word and a listening ear can help to save lives. Literally.

 

2016 in Pictures

Happy New Year guys! Another chapter has come and gone, and it’s time to begin a new one. 🙂 Since I’ve done a Year in Pictures for 2014 and 2015, I thought of continuing the tradition this time around too. 🙂 Another interesting year, with lots of ups and downs, food and travelling:

JANUARY

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Started the year full of zest! Work was going well at the startup I joined, my colleagues were fun, and I was thoroughly enjoying my job. Highlights this month: My big boss treated us to some good food at Makan Kitchen, DoubleTree by Hilton KL.

FEBRUARY

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Went to Manila, Philippines for the first time. I still can’t make up my mind if I love or hate this city. It’s colourful to say the least. I like the history and the culture, not so much the poverty and poor infrastructure. Visited places like Rizal Park, Intramuros, Ocean Park, Quezon City and more.

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Also went to Tagaytay and met up with two friends, Bonny and Geldy.  While in Manila, met up with Kris.

MARCH

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Attended the Hot Air Balloon Festival in Putrajaya. 

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Went with H to the Lost World of Tambun Hot Spring and Spa/Theme Park for a review.

APRIL

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Sneak peek of the Dragon Run – an inflatable obstacle course race in Genting Highlands. Got to try it before everyone else! 🙂

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Lucky me won an iPod from a draw at an event.

MAY

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Had fancy and authentic French food for the first time at 2OX Bistro in KL.

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Went to a dog cafe for the first time.

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Visited the National Visual Arts Gallery.

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Brought my editor to Thean Hou Gong Temple in KL.

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Tried to surprise Yasmin for her birthday. Note: tried. She saw the whatsapp group created on her boyfriend’s phone so it got spoilt lol. Still had loads of fun 😀

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Brought the bro to JumpStreet Trampoline Park.

Things weren’t going well at work at this time because of a certain individual in the company, who was an unethical twat – using office hours to do outside work, lying, cheating, making up stories, playing politics, etc. I had a fight with her and decided I had enough….so I quit my job.

JUNE

Started seeing a lot of floaters. Doc said I had a small hole in the retina, so I did laser eye surgery.

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Tried out this friggin awesome cafe called Owls Cafe in Bukit Jalil. They serve amazing waffles and breakfasts.

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Went to ComicFest with the bro. Finally met my favourite local cartoonist, Abam Apam. 😀

JULY

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Fam trip to Bandung, Indonesia. Visited two volcanoes, hot springs, a giant lake in the mountains and loads of natural attractions.

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Also met up with Liv while in Bandung! 🙂

AUGUST 

Mum had her cataract surgery. Since I was at home doing freelancing while looking for a new job, I had to do chores, ferry her to the hospital and take care of her. I got a little depressed from not having a job, and also because of my mum’s condition.

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Took a break to Pulau Ketam, a fishing island off the coast of Selangor.

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Parents went meditating at Genting’s Swee Chin Temples so I tagged along.

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Also visited the French Village at Bukit Tinggi.

SEPTEMBER 

Finally landed a job, which was a great mood booster! It was also my birthday month. 🙂

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Went with Evelyn to check out the LED Flower exhibition at MAEPS.

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Visited the Islamic Arts Museum.

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Birthday celebration with college mates, and to see Nicole off for her 1-year working holiday in New Zealand.

OCTOBER 

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Went for Nights of Fright at Sunway Lagoon with C.

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Introduced to an amazing Italian restaurant called Enorme.

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Attended the Malaysian International Gourmet Festival in Genting.

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Tried Dining in the Sky at the Sepang F1 Circuit.

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Went for Escape the Fate Live in Malaysia with Danial.

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Traveled back to Ipoh. Visited the Agarwood Plantation, Concubine Lane, Gopeng and Museums.

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NOVEMBER 

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Flew to Penang for the opening of Penang Design Village, for work.

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Stayed at a classy 5-star suite with my own private dipping pool and like 10 pillows to each bed lol.

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Went to catch a local musical with Evelyn.

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Traveled to Singapore for a media trip. Visited art galleries, museums, and historical/cultural places of interest. Met up with my high school bestie Grace and went out drinking til morning at Clarke Quay.

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Cousin’s wedding in Ipoh.

DECEMBER

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Back in Manila again! Went to more places – Marikina, San Sebastian Church, Bonifacio Global City.

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Then on to Sabah in East Malaysia. Fresh seafood, sea views, and visited a CSR project in the interior. Rode in a Range Rover deep into the jungle and hiked to the village dam. Interesting experience!

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Succumbed to temptation and bought more books at the Big Bad Wolf Sale.

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And finally, made this site into a .com!

Hope you guys had a great year and here’s to a better 2017! 🙂

xoxo,

Eris

 

 

Nth Better to Do – 100 Questions Tag

01. What have you been doing recently?

• Siesta. Attempting to eat a whole tub of vanilla ice cream.

02. Do you ever turn your cell phone off?
• Only when absolutely necessary.

03. What happened at 10.00 am today?
• Cancel class ! Go lepak at canteen.

04. When did you last cry?
• Been awhile gua. cant remember.

05. Believe in fate/destiny?
• Nope. I make my own destiny 😀

06. What do you want in your life right now?
• Lots of $$$ would be a great start.

07. Do you carry an umbrella when it rains,or just put up your hood?
• Hood. Umbrella heavy, lazy ~

08.What’s your favourite thing to have on your bed?
• 2 pillows and a bolster. I cant sleep if I don’t have a pillow to cover my feet XD bad habit

09. What bottom are you wearing now?
• Pasar malam shorts ~

10. What’s the nicest text in your inbox say?
• idk xD

11. Do you tend to make a relationship complicated?
• Sometimes

12. Are you wearing anything you borrowed from someone?
• Nope.

13. What was the last movie you caught?
• Marley & Me with coursemates at KLCC.

14. What are you proud of?
• dunno leh

15. What does the oldest message in your inbox says?
• Also say oldest la. How to remember?

16. What was the last song you sang out loud?
• Fly like an eagle – Seal.

17. Do you have any nicknames?
• Eris, Piggy, ice cream queen (tat came from Ji Shyan ! :D)

18. What does you last received text message say?
• “baby zai jus finish eat :* ” oops. did i jus reveal that lovey dovey message to the rest of the world ? I’m sure hubby wouldn’t be mad. XD

19. What time did you go to bed last night?
• 11.30 pm.

20. Are you currently happy?
• Pretty okay.

21. Who gives you best advice?
• Myself.

22. Do you eat whipped cream straight from the can?
• Super fattening. But yes, I do. XD

23. Who did you talk on phone last night?
• Moo

24.Is anyone bugging you right now?
•Yes, you!

25. What/Who was the last thing/person to make you laugh?
• Mabel and Charlie i think. I forgot about what though. 😀

26. Do you wear toe socks?
• Got such thing ar?

27. Who was the last person you missed a call from?
• Some weird number.

28.Have you ever had your heartbroken?
• Yes

29. What annoys you most in a person?
• A lot of things annoy me. >.<

30. Do you have a crush on anyone?
• Nope.

31. Have you ever done cocaine?
• Nope.

32. What is the colour of your room?
• Apple green.

33.Would you kill someone you hate for a billion dollars?
• Maybe, if I could get away with it. Lol jk.

34. Do you believe in the saying of: talk is cheap?
• Yes, and promises are always empty.

35. Who was the last person to lie in your bed?
• Myself.

36. Who was the last person to hug you?
• Hubby.

37. Did anyone see the last person you kissed?
• Yes ._. It was very embarrassing. Let’s not talk about it.

38. Do you have a life?
• Obviously not. Coz i am doing this post.

39. Have you ever thought that someone died,when they really didn’t die?
• Nope. but I’ve wished countless times that sum people died. * evil*

40. What is the reason behind your profile song?
• No particular reason, I just like it.

41. Who was the last person you saw in your dream?
• If I told you I dreamt I was babysitting a whole troupe of kids who were all crying coz they wanted their toys which were somehow floating on the top of a huge aquarium, would u think I’m weird? Also, they were random kids, not anyone I knew.

42. Last time you smiled?
• Dunno leh. I don’t record down when I smile. ==

43. Have you changed this year?
• I don’t think so.

44. What are you listening right now?
• Broken -Seether featuring Amy Lee.

45. Are you talking to someone when you’re doing this?
• If MSN counts, then Kyle, Jake and hubby. .

46. Do you walk with your eyes opened or closed?
• If I want to get hit by a car then I close my eyes ba.

47. Is there a quote you live by?
• I’m sorry if its not a touching, inspiring film like braveheart or joan of ark, but my fave quote comes from kung fu panda ” yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. tats why we call it present. ” -master wooguai ( the tortoise. i love him! especially when he was blowing out the candles. )

48. Do you want someone you cannot have?
• Nope. I already have the one I want. ^^

49. Have you ever played an instrument?
• Piano and guitar. (which lies rotting somewhere in the store room)

50. What was the worst idea you’ve had in this week?
• Trying to eat a whole tub of ice cream.

51. What were you doing last night at 11 pm?
• Reading on my bed.

52. Are you happy with your love life right now?
• yes !

53. What song best describe your love life?
• I don’t wanna miss a thing – Aerosmith.

54. Does the person know that you like him/her?
• Yes

55. Who always makes you laugh?
• I’m a really serious person with no sense of humour. So only a handful:  hubby, Grace, Simon, Mabel, Charlie. I have no friends lol.

56. Do you speak other language other than English?
• Cantonese, Malay, and some cacat Mandarin

57. Favourite website(s)?
• Friendster,Facebook, Nuffnang, my blog, shopping websites, creative art websites.

58. What’s your middle name?
• rhythm

59. What are you doing tomorrow?
• Tomoro is off day ! I’ll play games at home all day ! weeee~~

60. What do you think you are like?
• I would describe myself as a dormant volcano. XD

61. Who will you choose to die with?
• We live and die alone.

62. Where have you been today?
• College, LRT station and on the road. Practicing my driving. +.+”

63. What game do you play often? 
• Kiddie RPGs. The sims , puzzle games. and i love food games.

64. Who are you missing right now?
• Hubby and bestie.

65. If you have to choose between friend and love,who will you choose?
• Tough one. I can’t choose.

66. What are you doing right now?
– Answering ” what are you doing right now?”

67. Which primary school are you from?
• You don’t need to know.

68. Name 3 colours that you like?
• Black, dark red and white.

69. What emotion do you like to show?
• The resting bitch face -_-

70. What is your life to you?
• to be lived.

71. If you have something troubling you,what will you do?
• Try to solve it.

72. Who did you last chat in msn today?
• Still chatting

73. Who do you admire most?
• J.R.R.Tolkien. for creating the most fantastic books eva !

74. Which month were you born in?

75. How are you feeling right now?
• Bored. Will this quiz never end?

76. What is the time now?
• 2105

77. What kind of person do you think the one who tagged you is?
• I copied this tag from hubby’s course mate coz it looked interesting. I don’t know her, but she seems like a nice person.

78. What colour did you use to dye hair?
• Never dyed it. If i did, I guess my mum would make sure I really “dye” 😀 I’d love to have electric blue highlights though

79. Why are you doing this test?
• Do you think I would if I had anything better to do?

80. What do you do when you’re moody?
• Listen to emo songs. and eat. 😀

81. At which age you wish to get married?
• After I have a stable career

82. Who is more important to you?
• Family.

83. If today is the last day of your life,what will you do?
• Tell everyone I ever wanted to tell what I wanted to tell them. (what did I just say?)

84. Who is the person you trust the most?
• Myself.

85. Do you believe in seeing a rainbow after a rain?
• It’s scientifically proven, what.

86. If you have a dream come true,what would it be?
• Whatever it is, I hope it isn’t the babysitter dream above. lol.

87. What is your goal for this year?
• Lose 5 kg. aha

88. Do you believe in eternal love?
• No, becoz we will have to die.

89. What feeling do you love most?
• Sinking into my pillows to sleep

90. Do you really think it’s global warming now?
• Maybe. Save the penguins

91. What feeling do you hate the most?
• Rejection

92. Do you cherish every single friendship of yours?
• It depends

93. Do you believe in God?
• I have my moments.

94. Who cares for you most?
• Family. Hubby. Friends

95. What do you think is the most important thing in you life?
• Relationships.

96. What will you bring when you fight?
• A friggin’ chainsaw. Coz why not, right?

97. What have you done regretted doing in your whole life?
• I regret nothing.

98. What would you feel if everyone no longer cares for you?
• I’d be sad, but life goes on.

99. What if your boyfriend/girlfriend two-timed you?
• Goodbye.

100. How do you feel now
• Happy ~ finally finished answering these questions!