Friend ?

As a (self-professed) INTJ, I’m very picky when it comes to friends (which is why I don’t have many!) But I’d like to think that the handful of close pals I have are those whom I can trust and share things with.

I’m not a person who’ll go out of the way to do things for you, unless you’re family or a very close friend. Sounds douchey, but that’s just the way it is. My buddies will tell you this though – once you have my friendship, you have it for life. If you have an emergency at 3am, I’ll be the first one there for you even if I have to drive at 120km/h in pouring rain. (Not that that’s been tested yet, but yeah.) 

Usually, it takes me a long time to open up to others, but sometimes I meet people whom I hit it off with right off the bat. In this case, it was with this girl called L. I haven’t known her for long, but since we share a lot in common, I felt that we could be good friends. It started off that way, but lately, L has been piling more and more of her responsibilities onto me while doing nothing herself. The worst part is, another friend pointed out that she should probably be helping me (helping! haha! when it was her job in the first place) and she ignored it. IG.NORED. IT.

That’s when I knew this woman was just taking advantage of my kindness and my willingness to help her as a friend.

The thing about INTJs and trust is that we are less trustful than all the other personality types, due to our penchant for ‘observing’ people before drawing logical conclusions on them. If this trust is given, you best believe that you should treasure it. In this case, I guess I judged wrongly.

Well, guess what? The next time she asks for my help, she can talk to the hand, because I’m not letting her play me for stupid again. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice..

I realized this was affecting me more than it should when I couldn’t sleep last night (as if I was still some high school kid! tsk.), so I decided to write it down to get it off my chest.

Anyway, I’m sure I’ll look back on this petty episode and laugh it off. In the meantime, I’m just going to have a Merry Christmas with my fam and friends. Ones who don’t take advantage of me lol.

A very Merry Christmas to you too, dear reader.