A Friend In Need…

… were you expecting me to say ‘is a friend indeed?’ 

Well, no. This time, I really do have a friend in need. And this is the only way I can think of helping, so yeah.

I like being part of the WordPress community. It’s one of the reasons why I continue paying expensive hosting fees year after year, despite the fact that I could just pay for a domain and host all my photos / stuff on another site for much cheaper. But I’ve been on WP for 8 years (longer than some ex-boyfriends can say they’ve been in my life, lol), and I’ve made many good friends here from all around the world. One of these friends is a fellow writer, Arnie. Arnie runs A Barbarian in Gentleman’s Clothing,  where he blogs about everything from lifestyle and how-to guides for work-outs, to book reviews and more personal entries such as his experience raising a daughter as a single dad.

You can read the full story here, but the gist of it is that he might be losing the house he is living in soon – unless he raises enough funds to pay off the bank debt in two months. Before you go “oooh this sounds like the opening of a scam; next you’re going to tell me you’re a Nigerian prince with a fortune lol”, I just want to say: I don’t know either. I have never met Arnie in person. We’ve spoken on the Internet. I’ve drawn cartoons for his daughter. He’s given me Tagalog lessons. I can’t vouch or claim I know anything about him beyond what he has chosen to share with me.


I think I am a pretty good judge of character, and he has done nothing except be a kind, helpful and generous friend who always lends a listening ear, without asking for anything in return. So I’ve decided the least I can do is help him share his story.

The pandemic is a difficult time for everyone – myself included – people have lost jobs, businesses have closed (or are closing), the economic outlook isn’t great, jobs are scarce. N and I have been apart for 7 months now, with no possibility of seeing each other for the rest of the year (due to the Malaysian border closure). He hasn’t been able to find a job in the Phils, where coronavirus cases continue to rise and the death toll continues to climb. Meanwhile, my mom retired earlier this year and is suffering from chronic pain and depression (which sometimes makes dealing with her unbearable), my dad looks likely to be retrenched, we have our own money troubles, the house is a constant maelstrom of negativity, and I’m likely going to be jobless by the end of the year. Everyone has their own problems – and it’s therefore not fair to expect anything from anyone. Still, I’m hoping that by sharing this, I can help to make a friend’s life just a teensy bit better. Or at least not worry about whether or not he’ll have a roof over his head, both for him and his family.

If you’d like to donate, you can visit Arnie’s GoFundMe page at this link: https://gogetfunding.com/help-me-save-my-mothers-house/ . If you feel like hey, donating money for no reason’s not your thing,  you can help by subscribing to his exclusive content on Patreon, or hiring him for proofreading on Fiver. As a fellow creative, I like reading his stories – they feel genuine, funny, and heartwarming. Most importantly, they’re not pretentious.

I’m not really good at asking people for stuff, so I’ll just end it here lol. Sorry to pull a Stephen King (the joke is that he’s not good at writing endings).

I hope everyone is keeping safe, strong and healthy! 


6 thoughts on “A Friend In Need…

  1. Hi Eris, thank you! I can’t find the words to say how much this means to me.
    We have been friends for quite some time, and I want you to know that you are special to me.
    Again, thank you so much.

    There’s that ninja, cutting onions again…


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