Wow, has it been three years since my last blogger award nomination? Guess I haven’t been mingling in the community as much as I’d like to, lol.
That aside, a big thank you to Mr.A for nominating me for the Sunshine Blogger Award! Being a writer/journalist, I tend to do most of the questioning – so it’s nice to have someone ask me questions for a change. 🙂
Tell us about the last time you listened to what your inner voice has to say and the last time you didn’t?
The last time I listened to my inner voice was when I decided to leave a relationship I wasn’t happy in – three years ago. On the other hand, inner voice has been telling me (everyday) to start making healthier life choices, and I’ve been failing miserably at it!
What do you care most about, outside of yourself? Tell us how does caring for this helped you trust yourself more?
I care most about my family, but I don’t think it has made me trust myself more – I think it has just stressed me out thinking I might not be doing enough.
Tell us about the things you want yourself to want?
One of my biggest weaknesses (or strengths? depending on how you look at it lol) is that I don’t like to be answerable to anyone – my actions and decisions are my own, and should not be weighed down by other people. But of course, we don’t live a solitary existence, and I’ve had to learn to accept that sometimes, I have to consider the feelings of those around me, even if they compromise my own. I guess I want to be more… understanding? (Does this make me sound like a sociopath?)
How do you approach non-fiction reading? Do you relate or make disagreements with what the author has to say? Do you try to have a conversations with the thing you read?
I usually lean towards opinions or facts that are aligned with my own beliefs, but I also try to bounce alternative viewpoints and put myself in the other person’s shoes. As for conversations, it is difficult for me as an INTP to find someone who shares the same interests or have the same train of thought as I do, so conversations of what I’ve read always turn out awkward.
I’ve recently been reading the Chinese classic The Golden Lotus, which has a number of erotic poems. The symbolism is amazing, but it’s hardly a good way to strike up a convo: “Hey, did you know that the line ‘the dew, like a gentle stream, reaches the heart of the peony’ refers to ejaculation? I read that in a book. Let’s discuss.”
I don’t know if any of what I just said made sense, lol.
What are your controversial opinions and why do you believe them? If it’s not worth talking about publicly, may you tell us why?
I think it’s more what I DON’T believe. I don’t believe in a man in the sky. More accurately, I don’t think that praying for help from a divine being will help solve our problems.
If a man that is dear to you (dad, husband, boyfriend, brother), helps someone that is viciously being attacked. Would you be proud of him for helping or be angry with them for putting himself in harm’s way?
A little bit of both. I think morality teaches us compassion – to help those in need – but I also think that human beings are inherently selfish. The selfish part of me would be angry that they’d risk harming themselves, but the moral part would know it’s the right thing to do.
Which men’s style profile would you prefer, a classic gentleman, a lumbersexual or a rockstar?
I’ve always preferred the unconventional and quirky, so probably a rock star.
Which male pop icon you think is the epitome of manhood? Tell us the traits that he has that makes you say so?
Keanu Reeves. Just the fact that he has stayed so grounded, real and humble despite being a star, and that he hasn’t let life beat him down despite the tragic things that have happened to him.
Who is sexier, a frugal man or a generous man?
I think there should be a good balance between the two. One should not be too frugal to the point of being stingy, but not overly generous to the point of being taken advantage of.
As a man, what are your thoughts of me based on my writing and what you know about me?
Not a man, but I think you’re a confident, unapologetic person who is comfortable in your own skin. Coming from a society where most people put on a mask to get what they want, that’s genuinely refreshing.
Lastly, the “Mr. A being Mr. A” question – Does size matter? I mean you no disrespect, I won’t feel bad if you choose not to answer.
No, but I seem to have a hard (HAHA!) time convincing some men that it doesn’t. As they say, it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean. winkwink.
I’d like to nominate the following for the award:
And here are my questions. I’m afraid they’re not exactly hard hitting, but I hope you’ll have fun answering them (if you feel up to it)!
- Which is more important – Health or wealth?
- If you could go back in time to change one thing in your life, what would it be?
- Currently on your travel bucket list.
- Something you’ve been saving up to buy.
- Is there an insecurity (physical or mental) that you wish to overcome?
- If someone deliberately does something to wrong you (eg, cheat or lie), do they deserve a second chance?
- Is honesty always the best policy?
- A song that changed your life.
- A childhood cartoon crush.
- An unforgettable moment or point in life that has shaped you into the person you are today.
- Do men or women make for more long lasting friendships? Based on your answer, why do you think so?
- Thank the blogger who nominated you.
- Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you.
- Nominate new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.
- List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award in your post/or on your blog.
- Notify the nominees about it by commenting on one of their blog posts.